Serthra Lucretia, transgender writer, tells in his book "The unconscious and silent power of women ..." because our society is affected by the weaker sex. And explain why men go to trans.
Just a few months by the scandal trans Marrazzo topic is still relevant. And when drafting Lucretia Serthra, Turin, graphic design and transgender writer, writes in to ask if we are interested in his book entitled "The unconscious ... and silent power of women", the call immediately. Of the book we read only the preface, but featuring an interview
ista phone about why men go to trans and she accepts. A first call attempt should be empty. "Hello, there Lucretia?". "No - they meet the other side - here there is no Lucretia, I'm Mary." Yet the phone number sent to us via e-mail address is correct, so we try again. Responds the same lady as before, but this time the child passes. "Lucretia's me." It could be the scene of a film by Pedro Almodovar first manner, Lucretia attacks immediately to explain that his book, published by Lulu.com, an essay is deliberately complex "because if I wanted to use a simpler language would have been less precise and so I could not concentrate in 72 pages what probably would require a tome of 400. " Definitely difficult being a reality that transgender people who can not be understood, said Lucretia, only pretending "to be called feminine. This is a joke, "he says, throwing a barb at Vladimir Luxuria, whose image on television, according to the writer are not the same as transsexual and transgendered people in reality. Lucretia Well, before speaking of the book, our readers have written to us in so many want to know what their husbands from the cross.
She has an answer? Substance I can speak my mind, for having made a journey too, especially in private hands. I made a couple of fashion shows for fun and in private. I also did a fashion show in Milan that the Nautilus is a very well known. By the way, As you know, all meetings, even in private rooms. Try to do a sort of synopsis: first the social and cultural phenomenon is not fresh, it ancient. From now on, however: that of married men who go to a trans hidden phenomenon and this is not about anyone, not even the same trans. A little 'latent homosexuality originates and somewhat' exist because there is in disguise and in this duality that attracts trans. When you go to look for the transvestite is not like going to homosexuals. In this case when you face a transvestite, you know he is a transvestite, but your conscience is aroused by some and justified the other. See a female, but you know it's a man, but what you see tells you that she is a woman. Psychologically, the male part is saved, and at the same fibrillation is the psychological side feels justified. This is the spring, we associate this marriage and anything goes, there is the man suspicion that travels with the women's panties underneath, for example.
Who is the customer type of transsexual or transgender?
I have had experiences with professionals and there's all the Advocate to the manager, the deputy commander of the carabinieri who lives 500 meters from here, this is reality.
How hard is it to be trans?
It must be said that the part of the transgender, to some degree just to wear an earring to lose their jobs. On the other hand, if the worker is dismissed because it is the transgender in a room, has lost a job from 1000 € per month and almost nothing happens, but if this happens at other levels as in the case of Marrazzo, the stakes are very high and then there are things that are much more serious.
is only a question of sex in relationships with trans?
No, the psychological matters greatly.
As the topic is taboo for men and the relationship between men and their wives?
All this is wrapped in physical and psychological factors. If you could see the trans not dressed as a woman does not take the same spring. I do not know whether to trigger this instinct there is a genetic mechanism or not. When shooting this spring (they go to trans men?) Who goes in maybe privé has courage and speaks with his partner (But not always). But in your opinion, how many there are who have the courage to express these impulses to their partner in a normal couple? They are very rare cases. If you are at the beginning of a relationship, do not tell him because at stake is the fact of discovering. If you have a relationship started even worse. There are too many things at stake and there is no culture to understand it. Prefer not to risk anything not confessing, no one dares to time. They prefer to do this in total secrecy. On the one hand increases the transgression, the other still prefer to remain in hiding.
In his book "The unconscious ... and silent power of women," whose first chapter can be downloaded for free preview publisher's site Lulu.com, speaking of marketing related to womenswear. What has this to do with the world of trans?
objects women are feminine only by convention. It is doubtful that worn by trans create more attraction. Do not think that there are better for a woman. So she does not realize herself to be the problem because it is too involved in this aspect. It is she who must first get naked and start dall'equanimità gender.
In what sense?
Not being aware of it, can not participate. There are so many transsexuals, myself, there I was falling, which come to think that making a sex-change operation, then you're accepted by society. Think about it, photographs and think: but this is a success? Absolutely not, this is a great defeat. It is one thing if it were a choice, but in many cases, sex change surgery is not an option, you get to risk their lives to please others.
She writes that women have more freedom to be and appear. Because this freedom would be denied to men? Why actually is. There is no such freedom. The fashion gurus know this. What you spend in the fashion, the majority of money is invested on women. Because they know everything, however, that their talent can imagine it will sell.
As transgender, is seen in competition with women? Absolutely not, they are my best friends.
"The unconscious and silent power of women ..." is in what they wear? Not only that. What goes into creating a range of issues including homophobia. You do not ever eliminate homophobia at the base if there is a civic education starting from kindergarten, but to explain the range of the Gelmini.
you feel good in the status of transgender? I found my balance, I do not know what is the cell which results in me all this. One thing I can say when you find your balance after you have fought for years, can you accept it. I'm like and I have to be first but I did not. There may be biological or psychological motivations but also genetic and here
science groping in the dark. I have found this balance and is not that hard I try. They are not as striking as Luxuria, I am a transgender person, by convention, knowing what they are biologically, but not being able to fight with science, then return the normal balance visceral organs, and I made a choice. I put mine and I'm happy, I also say I look younger. I found my balance in a right social compromise. Of course I can not explain it to everyone I meet, but they are very appreciated for what they are. Although it is difficult to know why you have to impose. How do they behave with the trans men? Towards the trans or the beam (which is not trans) men - since they are a bit 'inhibited by this obscurity of women - they feel freer to make a joke and to reach out or make a mischievous look . Why is associated with the trans prostitution. Many do it for convenience because you earn well, even if the risks are, and how. Many have no alternative.
We talk about sex in your book? Homosexuality typically comes from many things, as well as active or passive homosexual experience. When you approach a transsexual does not get the idea how to do, but slowly, from the early experience of course. In most cases the husband and his wife have never played to practice anal sex and having had maybe some encouragement here and there, as the reproductive system continues with his bundle of nerves in both men and women parallel to the anal canal. This is an erogenous zone, and if you touch, however, with the imagination begins to "go." But for many it is a new thing. What happens then? That these bundles are slightly less sensitive, and then inside is a bit 'difficult to stimulate, but this is an advantage because an orgasm can last longer. What is the man who calls his partner a thing? No man dare, and there is also the fear of asking beams and prostitutes. One of the initial and preparatory practices is the strap-on. A penis made of various materials with a lot of balls, worn to life. Many people ask us to wear it because then begin to make these experiences and to have a kind of transference of identity that draws on experience with the trans. This is one of those things that is hard to ask to a woman. This homosexual experience in which the woman could be involved, but in a pair should be to violate assumptions and constraints that we involving day after day to idealize masculinity. Not to mention the practice or Fendom Bdsm which is quite popular.
So what should a woman do with her man? The
woman missing in this notice. If you are not involved with each other, if we do not reveal certain things, the "normal" woman refuses and immediately think of homosexuality. These arguments violate all the principles. And she does not understand it.
last question: Lucretia Serthra is a pseudonym? Lucretia is my name. Gianni is the name I was born, but I do not even pronouncing my name. Everyone knows me as Lucretia, also the baker. But for my mother who has 80 years are always his son.
Daniel Passanante
